“What angers us in another person
is more often than not an unhealed aspect of ourselves.
If we had already resolved that particular issue,
we would not be irritated by its reflection back to us.”
I was in my mid thirties when my father and I started a business together. One particular day we had been having several disagreements and when I got home that evening I began to spout off to my wife just how unreasonable may father was. I went on about this and that, pointing out all the flaws in my fathers’ personality. I was irritated and just could not understand how anyone could be like that. With a warm and caring smile my wife replied, “You are just like him.” I realized that she was right.
That started an inner soul searching that continues today nearly fifteen years later. Without fail anytime I notice a particular trait in someone that irritates me or make me judgmental of that person, it is also a trait of my own personality.
A short time after this particular episode with my father, we were engaged in another disagreement. I thought this would be a good time to put to use my newfound wisdom. I said to my father, “I know just how you feel Pop, because I’m just like you.” To which my father replied, “Son, I getting sick and tired of you throwing that up in my face!” (-:
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